Beginner's Guide To Better Sex With Couple's Vibrators

Pack your bags because you and your lover are going on vacation to Pleasure Island! But, before you leave, read through our exclusive guide on Couples Vibrators and make your vacation even more adventurous by bringing a couples sex toy with you. Couples vibrators are designed specifically for adding extra erotic fun to your love life. Hesitant about using a vibrator in the bedroom? Take notes from the 41 percent of men and women who have used a vibrator for foreplay or the 37 percent of men and women who added a third party (a.k.a. the vibrator) to intercourse. If you still need convincing, read on to explore the world of couples vibrators - and be sure to check our Top 10 Vibrators for Couples.

 

Why Get a Couples Vibrator? The Benefits..

We can all agree that sex is an important part of most romantic relationships, and keeping things hot and fresh is also another aspect of a healthy, satisfying love life. Couples vibrators can take sex with your partner to new orgasmic heights and offer all sorts of benefits for you to enjoy. Take a look for yourself:

 

1. Better Sexual Experiences

If you’ve had trouble climaxing during intercourse or you want to switch up your sex routine, adding a vibrator to your bedroom play spices things up and opens your (bedroom) doors to more variety. When you’re more open-minded and don’t take sex so seriously, making it playful and exciting, you’ll also feel physically and emotionally satisfied.

 

2. Learn More About Each Other + Improved Communication

Many couples are shy about talking to each other about sex mostly because it can be uncomfortable or because of fear of rejection from their partner. Fourteen percent of couples tread lightly when it comes to bringing up sex conversations, and five percent don’t talk about it at all. For 51 percent of couples who were surveyed by TODAY have sex 1-2 times a week, which is considered the norm. Busy schedules, taking care of kids, business trips away from home, etc., are the typical excuses that you may hear from couples who have an average, normal sex life.

What we want to share and encourage here at Simpli Pleasure, to individuals and lovers, is that you can experience better sex, have more of it, and overall improve your relationship with yourself or with your partner. Bringing up sex convos can be an intimidating task for some of you. If it’s the purpose of enhancing your sexual experience together or if it’s to keep you and your partner satisfied in the bedroom, then it’s more than worth it to initiate and discuss sex.

When you take home a new vibrator to try during your intimate time with your special someone, you can experiment with new positions and sensations. You’ll also learn more about what turns on your partner and what gets their hot buttons even hotter. Sex is a vulnerable, personal experience. Knowing more about your significant other’s naughty secrets allows you two to share something special that no one else knows.

 

3. No More Fake O’s

A shocking 80 percent of ladies fake orgasms, and the reasons for doing so vary among women. From being too tired to not wanting to hurt their partner’s ego, women who have faked orgasms at least once in their life may not get the sexual satisfaction they’re seeking. Most women climax from clitoral stimulation, and vibrators are one of the most popular intimate toys that help stimulate the clitoris and guarantee orgasms for women. By using a couples vibrator, you’ll know that you’ll orgasm while you’re getting it on with your babe (as long as the vibrator is used properly and placed in a position that will help you achieve mind-blowing climax).

Here’s another jaw-dropping statistic: 28 percent of men also have faked orgasms! It might be impossible to believe since our society emphasizes male pleasure, but it’s true. The reasons for faking an O can be the same as women: They don’t want their partners to feel bad, to feel desirable or look good to their partner or to simply save face. In some cases, faking orgasms could be due to being too intoxicated (especially since alcohol is considered a depressant and relaxes the body).

Your man can enjoy the thrills of a vibrator, too, so why not try a couples vibrator to see how much sexual pleasure you can gain from using one? You’ll also help improve communication about sex with your partner. If you’re faking orgasms, that means there’s more for you to work on as an individual or as a couple. You can’t get what you don’t ask for after all.

 

4. Makes Sex More Fun

Many of us worry about how we’re performing when we’re having sex with our partners. We forget that it’s a learning experience as well; we discover more about what turns our lover on. We’re not going to get everything perfect every time we engage in sex, so it’s important to make sex fun, not I’m-having-a-job-interview serious. Vibrators are sex toys (‘toys’ being the keyword here), and toys are meant to bring fun to any situation, right? If a couples vibrator is exciting for you and your partner, show it! Laugh, play, and moan – you’ll feel a lot better about sex, too.

 

5. Unisex and Versatile

Anyone can enjoy couples vibrators. Whether you’re in a male-female relationship or a male-male relationship, couples vibrators accommodate everyone’s sexual needs. That’s why no couple is left behind when they want to enhance their sex life and try out different kinds of pleasure tools. In the next section, we’ll discuss the wide range of vibrating sex toys for you lovebirds to indulge in.

 

Worthy Mentions: Best Couples Vibrators

No matter what your sexuality or your gender, there’s a couples vibrator that you can take to the bedroom. We’ve listed seven of the top-selling vibes here so that you and your lover can choose the best one(s) to use for better and more enticing sex play.

 

1. Jimmyjane Hello Touch Fingertip Vibe

Fingering play just got better! Teasing, tickling, and stimulating your lady’s clitoris is more personal and thrilling for both of you with the innovative Jimmyjane Hello Touch Fingertip Vibe. From stroking and rubbing, your magic fingers can do a lot to arouse your partner’s sweet spots. But, with the Hello Touch, you can power up your tantalizing play. Not only do women get sexual satisfaction from this, but men can, too! Ladies or men, for your male partners, you can use this high-tech fingertip vibe to tease the scrotum or perineum (super sensitive secret male pleasure zones) for intensified stimulation.

This versatile luxury finger vibrator has a single powerful vibration to take your pampered lady to an orgasmic finish and soft webbed finger pads for added comfort. You can also gift the Hello Touch to your partner and let her show you how she likes to be pleased, giving you a super sexy private show! Plus, with this sex accessory’s travel-friendly size, you can take it with you on vacation and enjoy bedroom pleasure outside of your home.  

Jimmyjane Hello Touch is available in black and white color variations.

Jimmyjane Hello Touch Fingertip Vibe

 

2. LELO Tiani 3

An exclusive couples vibrator from the luxury intimate product brand, LELO, the Tiani 3 is a high-tech, dual-action vibe that enhances lovemaking with your man. The Tiani 3 has a unique U-shape that’s designed to stimulate the woman’s clitoris and G-spot at the same time while their man is thrusting inside them. Both you and your significant other will feel the sensual vibrations and experience euphoric climaxes!

The wireless remote allows you to cycle through the various vibration modes to surprise your partner. You can also use the LELO Tiani 3 as a masturbation pleasure tool and let your man or woman take control of the remote. Made from high-quality material and designed to bend and fit your sexy curves comfortable, this elegant and high-end couples vibe provides maximum pleasure and comfort for you and your lover.  

LELO Tiani 3

 

3. We-Vibe 4 Plus Couples Vibrator

Similar in shape to the LELO Tiani 3 previously mentioned, the We-Vibe 4 Plus is another couples vibrator designed to stimulate the lady’s clitoris and G-spot pleasure zones. With a total of 16 vibration settings, this sensational and flexible vibe for couples is packed with plenty of pleasure that you can customize to your liking.

What makes We-Vibe 4 Plus stand out is not only its high-tech, well-made form, but it also has a smartphone app called We-Connect that allows you to control the vibrations anywhere (even when you’re in different countries)! Even if you’re not sexing it up in the bedroom, you can stay sexually and physically connected with this incredibly convenient app. If you’ve ever had fantasies or desires to enjoy pleasure when you’re out in public, this is the toy for you!

We-Vibe 4 Plus Remote Control Clitoral and G-Spot Couples Vibrator

 

4. Jopen Ela Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Ring

Cock rings are simple, yet effective, pleasure-enhancing sex accessories designed for men. With their constriction, erections are firmer and fuller, making men last longer and build up their pleasure for an explosive happy ending. The Jopen Ela Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Ring, though, takes it up a notch and adds the thrills of vibration to this classic sex toy. This is a cock ring specifically designed for couples to enjoy and increases your chance of having mutual orgasms.  

The vibrations help heighten sensations for the man while stimulating the woman’s clitoris and other external hot spots. Simple, compact, and rechargeable, the Jopen Ela Vibrating Cock Ring is an eco- and travel-friendly toy that you can take with you anywhere.

Jopen Ela Rechargeable Vibrating Cock Ring

 

5. LELO Oden 2

Here’s a alternate version of the cock ring: the LELO Oden 2! Featuring two flexible ring attachments, this couples cock ring vibrating toy is designed with an elongated handle to give the lady more external arousal and cover a wider base. The rings can be switched or adjusted to provide a more comfortably tight fit for the man.

Programmed with LELO’s exclusive SenseMotion Technology, the wireless remote for this couples erection-enhancing ring changes vibration modes with a flick of your wrist so you don’t have to fiddle around with power buttons. As a waterproof intimate pleasure toy, you can take the Oden 2 to the shower and share a naughty, steamy session in another location other than the bedroom.

LELO Oden 2

 

6. Cal Exotics 7 Function Silicone Love Rider Strap-On

Strap-on play is a fun and wild way to experiment with a variation of vaginal penetration and even pegging (a woman performing anal sex on a man). The Cal Exotics 7 Function Silicone Love Rider Strap-On provides 2-way pleasure for both partners and is designed for women to wear.

This vibrating strap-on toy and harness set features a long and large dildo used for anal or vaginal penetration, which you can use no matter if you’re in a male-female or female-female relationship. The butterfly clit stimulator on the other side of the dildo is where the vibrator play comes in and has nubs to tease and tickle your orgasm button. To control the seven vibrations installed in this butterfly vibe, the attached remote control provides an easy, convenient way to cycle through the settings. You can also let your partner pleasantly surprise you with unpredictable vibration patterns.

For men who want to satisfy their spouse’s or girlfriend’s desire for a bigger dong, what’s great about a strap-on toy set is that it has a dildo included for maximum filling and stretching sensations. On the other hand, women can treat their man to mind-blowing anal sex or pegging (which isn’t just for gay men!) while enjoying the clitoral stimulation from this Cal Exotics couples vibrator. Lesbian couples can use the Cal Exotics strap-on for vaginal, G-spot stroking, anal sex while giving attention for the clitoris.

 

7. LELO Loki Luxury Vibrating Prostate Massager

The prostate, also known as the P-spot or male G-spot, is a nerve-packed, walnut-sized gland located in front of the anterior wall of the anal canal, and it’s one of the hidden gems of male sexual pleasure. Both gay and heterosexual men can enjoy the knee-shaking thrills of prostate orgasms with a vibrating prostate massager like the LELO Loki. These types of anal sex toys can be used by yourself or with your partner, so it can adapt to many sexual situations.

The Loki prostate vibrator has a cleverly curved body that was specifically crafted to pinpoint the prostate and provide direct stimulation so you don’t have to waste any time searching for this secret insta-orgasm spot. The vibrations send even more thrills to your backdoor pleasure zone for extra p-spot arousal.

LELO Loki Luxury Vibrating Prostate Massager

 

Discover more thrilling couples vibrators in our collection.

 

How to Spice Up Your Sex Life With or Without Toys

We’ve talked about couples vibrators and how they can boost your love life in ways that your usual sex routine can’t do. To wrap up our guide, though, we want to leave you with tips and tricks that you can use to revamp your sexy time, whether you use a vibrator specially made for lovers or not.

 

1. Start small and simple before you upgrade.

If you don’t want to jump into more complex and larger couples vibrators like the LELO Tiani 3 or the LELO Insignia Tara, you can start with more basic forms of vibes that can still promote better sex in your love life. The Jimmyjane FORM 3 Waterproof Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator is a friendly, handheld vibrator that ladies can use for solo or couples play. Let your significant other please you by giving them the reigns and using this luxury clit-stimulating toy to get you over the edge. Seeing you enjoy yourself is just as much pleasure for your partner as it is to you.  

Jimmyjane FORM 3 Waterproof Rechargeable Clitoral Vibrator  

 

2. Shop for a couples sex toy together.

If you and your partner have talked about adding a sex toy to your sexual practices and are both on the same page, you can take it a step further and strengthen your bond by shopping for a couples vibrator or other sex toy together. Focus on toys that you both believe will be best for mutual stimulation and that will give you two the most pleasure. Shopping together can also give you more insight on what your spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend likes, and you can use those fun tidbits for future sex sessions.

 

3. Couples Vibrators + Sex Essentials = 2x the Erotic Fun

If you’re planning to add a couples vibrator to your regular sex routines, include sex essentials like stimulating gels and masturbation creams to your pleasure treasure trove. Stimulating gels are formulated with pleasure-enhancing ingredients to make your favorite erogenous zone more sensitive to heighten the sensations.

For the ladies, we have stimulating gels for your clitoris and G-spot (e.g., System JO G-Spot Mild Stimulating Gel and Tickle Her Pink Clitoral Pleasure Gel). You can get both a clitoral and G-spot stimulating gel to sensitize two arousing points at the same time and try a dual-action couples vibrator like the Evolved Novelties Bendable Butterfly Couples Vibe to maximize your simultaneous stimulation.

For the gentlemen, you can also enjoy the sensational thrills of a stimulating gel. The Classic Erotica Max G Stimulating Male Sex Prostate Gel not only helps you find your P-spot effortlessly, but it also enhances the sensitivity in the area to magnify your P-spot and general backdoor pleasure.

If you’re using a couples vibrating cock ring like the Topco Midnight Sun Vibrating Silicone Cock Ring, which makes your erection naturally bigger and helps delay ejaculation, you can try a cooling or warming lubricant to add an extra tingle of pleasure to your joystick. Another way to use cooling and warming lubricants is by combining both (e.g., your spouse gets a warming lube and you get the cooling lube) to create a completely new sensation. For couple’s lubrication set that includes warming and cooling lubricants, get the K-Y Yours + Mine Couples Lubricants.

K-Y Yours + Mine Couples Lubricants 3.0oz/88ml

You can also wear a vibrating cock ring to make your erection bigger and enjoy some oral sex foreplay with your mate. Make it more deliciously sinful for your partner by using a flavored lubricant like the System JO H20 Flavored Lube and the Doc Johnson GoodHead Mystical Mint.

 

4. Share your fantasies.

Have you ever shared your fantasies with your friends or anonymously online on forums and other social media sites? Well, it’s time to share those fantasies with your significant other! By revealing what types of fantasies you like to imagine while you’re masturbating or randomly throughout the day, you open yourself up to your partner and show them what kind of pleasure play you like to engage in or like to think about to get aroused. If you’re afraid that your lover will react negatively with some of the fantasies you have, try sharing fantasies that are easier to accept (e.g., having a threesome or indulging in light bondage). If you two are comfortable enough, you can even act out different fantasies to bring more.

 

5. Expand your couples sex toy collection.

Vibrators is just one category of pleasure tools you can use for better sex in the bedroom. Once you start with vibrators, you can create more erotic adventures with other couples sex toys! Our personal selection of these adult toys for couples features a wide range of naughty necessities to add more to your couples play portfolio.

Sex Swings like the Fetish Fantasy Deluxe Door Swing transforms your home into a naughty playground for you to enjoy. You can even take some sex swings with you on trips to have hot hotel sex anywhere!

If you want to act as a sex slave for a night or be the dominating one, try one of our couples bondage kits or other accessories like the Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System. Here at Simpli Pleasure, we offer an assortment of bondage gear that allows you to indulge in light bondage play (no hardcore BDSM here).

Sportsheets Under the Bed Restraint System - The Perfect Bondage Product!  

Take the time to explore other sex toys and accessories you can add to your pleasure toy chest!

 

6. Pay attention to what goes on outside the bedroom.

Are you flirting with each other during the day or just making casual small talk here and there? Do you stay connected through touch or sexy text messages throughout the day or don’t have any type of physical or cellular contact with your partner at all until you both are home? Intimacy out of the bedroom is just as important as in the bedroom.

If you want to build up sexual tension between you two, take advantage of touching, kissing, and flirting during the day. You can be sneaky if you have kids in the same vicinity, too, so don’t make kids or busy schedules an excuse to not keep the magic going in your relationship.

Relationships take work, even when you’ve been together for 20+ years, so don’t let the sex side or the emotional side of your lovebird nest die out! We hope that you and your lover will spoil yourselves and get a couples vibrator and other sexually satisfying toys that you can use for a wide array of naughty fun for years to come.
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